http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/2010/02/how-could-you-hurt-me-like-this/ Using EFT To Overcome Compulsive Behaviors Mon, 09 Jan 2012 03:21:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/2010/02/how-could-you-hurt-me-like-this/comment-page-1/#comment-708 Maryam Webster Wed, 19 Jan 2011 21:24:42 +0000 http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/?p=155#comment-708 Gloria, this is a great article, I'm sharing it to Facebook. Those hurt feelings lodge in our hearts physically speaking and contribute to the great stress that causes heart disease. I love your comment above too that "Hurt" keeps us a victim. I would rather be at choice in my life so am joining your (now) 2 woman crusade! :-) Gloria, this is a great article, I’m sharing it to Facebook. Those hurt feelings lodge in our hearts physically speaking and contribute to the great stress that causes heart disease. I love your comment above too that “Hurt” keeps us a victim. I would rather be at choice in my life so am joining your (now) 2 woman crusade!

]]> http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/2010/02/how-could-you-hurt-me-like-this/comment-page-1/#comment-542 gloria Sun, 21 Nov 2010 19:28:42 +0000 http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/?p=155#comment-542 Tina My point is a semantic one. The word "hurt" is re-defined by each of us to describe our reaction to something that someone did or did not do according to our unstated expectations or rules. If you were my client I would urge you to find a better word to describe your reaction to your husband's behavior. One of these would be more descriptive: betrayed, furious, disgusted, disappointed, helpless, humiliated, outraged, unloved, victimized, violated etc. Then explain what you are telling yourself that makes you feel this emotion and say what you want to have happen and what you choose to do. Take back your power. "Hurt" keeps you a victim. Gloria Arenson Tina
My point is a semantic one. The word “hurt” is re-defined by each of us to describe our reaction to something that someone did or did not do according to our unstated expectations or rules. If you were my client I would urge you to find a better word to describe your reaction to your husband’s behavior. One of these would be more descriptive: betrayed, furious, disgusted, disappointed, helpless, humiliated, outraged, unloved, victimized, violated etc. Then explain what you are telling yourself that makes you feel this emotion and say what you want to have happen and what you choose to do. Take back your power. “Hurt” keeps you a victim.
Gloria Arenson

]]> http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/2010/02/how-could-you-hurt-me-like-this/comment-page-1/#comment-540 Fara Sun, 21 Nov 2010 14:08:02 +0000 http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/?p=155#comment-540 It's not what you're called, but what you answer to. It’s not what you’re called, but what you answer to.

]]> http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/2010/02/how-could-you-hurt-me-like-this/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Tina Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:18:36 +0000 http://www.gloriaarenson.com/blog/?p=155#comment-51 Gloria, I understand the conscept that you are trying to explain here. I think. you are saying that no one can "hurt" us unless we let them? correct? So, what do you say to those clients like me who say, my husband has "hurt" me deeply by having a long standing affair. my trust has been broken aswell. We are truley trying to make our marriage work, but the anger, hurt , and trust issues are very hard to work through. I feel the "hurt". How do you let go? Gloria,
I understand the conscept that you are trying to explain here. I think. you are saying that no one can “hurt” us unless we let them? correct? So, what do you say to those clients like me who say, my husband has “hurt” me deeply by having a long standing affair. my trust has been broken aswell. We are truley trying to make our marriage work, but the anger, hurt , and trust issues are very hard to work through. I feel the “hurt”. How do you let go?

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