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Compulsive Behavior

Let the Buyer Beware

by gloria on October 27, 2011

Let the buyer beware is a saying that is as old as time. It originated in ancient Rome but is as relevant today as it was a few thousand years ago. In society nowadays we are bombarded by commercials and come-ons to buy goods and services through the media and digitally on our computers. How does this apply to EFT as more and more people practice it?

A few days ago I received a call from someone who has been suffering with a severe eating disorder for many years. She told me that in the past she had even tried many kinds of treatments and was now looking into meridian tapping. She has had sessions with a few practitioners who are quite well known in the tapping therapy world but was on the verge of giving up since nothing had worked. When I heard their names I realized that it wasn’t their skill in tapping that was at fault, it was their lack of expertise about eating disorders. If you have a sprained wrist or digestive problem you will most likely go to a doctor who is a General Practitioner. But if you have diabetes or cancer you will seek a specialist.

I have been in practice as a licensed psychotherapist for 30 years specializing in treating compulsive disorders, especially overeating and bulimia. I am knowledgeable in ways that the general EFT practitioner is not, relating to the biology of cravings and how these clients think, how they feel and how they behave. My book, Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards, is based on my work with hundreds of clients. In it I offer a complete plan to help sufferers of compulsive overeating and bulimia use EFT to help themselves.

EFT is spreading all over the world. That is fantastic. However, there are also many diverse groups offering certification in EFT that almost anyone can get whether they are licensed health or mental health professionals or not. I am writing this because of my concern that although some of these people who are advertising themselves as Practitioners in your city are experienced healers others may be just EFT enthusiasts who have taken a few trainings.

If you are a professional I am assuming that you will not use EFT to treat those whose problems are beyond your scope of practice. If you are learning EFT in order to become an EFT Practitioner or Coach, and intend to charge people for your services, please make sure that you know your own limits. Do no harm. If in doubt, refer potential clients to someone with experience who is more skillful. Don’t tell people that you can help them because our motto is Try It On Everything.

If you are a potential client who is interested in finding an EFT practitioner to aid you in resolving a problem make sure to ask what kind of background the practitioner has, the level of his or her training, and the amount of knowledge and experience they have in treating your particular problem.

Please remember that it is your responsibility to get the best for yourself. As the Romans would remind you: Caveat Emptor; Let the buyer beware!

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Toronto Here I Come

by gloria on October 16, 2011

It is only a few more days and I am off to the amazing Energy Psychology Conference in Toronto Canada. Flying from very sunny California to the brisk Fall climate of Toronto always reminds me of my youth in NYC. I look forward to the chill air and being able to wear a parka.

Friends from all over the world will be there to share their expertise and creativity. I am delighted to be presenting a workshop about using Energy Psychology methods to treat Compulsive Spending and Debting. Unfortunately the medical and psychological community treat this addiction as if it were a joke, but we are a nation of spenders. We are spurred on by commercials and credit card companies to go out and spend. Even past President George Bush urged us to medicate the pain of the 9/11 trauma by shopping!!

I am going to explain that a stressed brain is a craving brain. We are all familiar with cravings for alcohol, drugs, food, and more recently computers, texting and Internet porn. It is time to realize that compulsive spending also wrecks lives. Spending addicts lie, cheat and steal to keep their addiction going. When I was researching my book, Born To Spend, I interviewed a woman who had embezzled money to pay for her spending habit and was going to prison the next day. I can vouch for the seriousness of this out of control urge to splurge since my own marriage to a compulsive spender led to bankruptcy and divorce.

If you can’t attend my talk you may want to read the book or listen to the audio version. Speaking of books, I promise that once I am back I will be launching my latest Ebook, Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It.

Keep tuned.

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Cravings Anonymous

March 30, 2011

Many, many years ago when Overeaters Anonymous was in its infancy in Los Angeles, many members of AA with years of sobriety were invited to speak at OA meetings. They brought experience, strength and hope to a group struggling to get on its feet. Among the AA helpers was a wonderful woman named Dottie who [...]

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The Enigma of Procrastination

January 26, 2011

I am going to teach a FREE one day workshop Saturday Jan. 29 at the Schott Center in Santa Barbara and have been thinking about the numerous times I have shared my ideas about this frustrating behavior in the last 25 years. I never run out of attendees! Procrastinators come in all ages, economic groups, [...]

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A Book Junkie Admits All

January 3, 2011

I have spent the last few days unable to tear myself away from watching a dreadful series that I am streaming instantly on TV. There are thirty-two episodes and I am almost finished with the lot. I am annoyed with my behavior and what a waste of time it is. Yesterday I tried to stop [...]

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How To Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Succeed

August 17, 2009

As the New Year begins many of us make resolutions for the coming months. One of the most common is to lose weight. Others want to stop smoking, drinking, spending, etc. Many, many years ago, when I lived in Los Angeles, the only support group for addicts was Alcoholics Anonymous. Around that time Overeaters Anonymous [...]

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How to Stop Overeating When the Going Gets Tough

February 3, 2009

One of my favorite sayings is “Desserts is stressed spelled backwards.” Stress affects the brain and creates craving. One of the most ways to deal with this is to stuff food into your mouth until the feeling goes away. In these hard times, when people are trying to spend less, food is still the cheapest [...]

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The Four Level Plan to Stop Compulsive Behavior

January 7, 2009

When you can’t control when you start or when you stop a behavior or substance you are suffering from a compulsion. We are all familiar with compulsive eating, drinking, and spending. Compulsive behavior begins as a solution to another problem, a way of using pleasure to mask pain. Sadly, over time, the compulsion takes on [...]

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The Trouble With Diets

January 4, 2009

Staying on a diet feels like a punishment. Those who lose and gain over and over again may feel like the legendary Sisyphus who was sentenced to roll a huge rock up a hill only to have it roll right down again, and he had to begin again, and again, and again. The esteemed columnist [...]

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You Can Eat One and Stop

January 3, 2009

An amazing acupressure technique called EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can take cravings away in minutes. Whether it is cigarettes, beer, donuts or chocolate, just touching or tapping a few energy points on the face and upper body allows the urge to disappear effortlessly. Most people who have used EFT to combat cravings report a loss [...]

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