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Compulsive Overeating

How to Stop Overeating When the Going Gets Tough

by Gloria on February 3, 2009

One of my favorite sayings is “Desserts is stressed spelled backwards.” Stress affects the brain and creates craving. One of the most ways to deal with this is to stuff food into your mouth until the feeling goes away. In these hard times, when people are trying to spend less, food is still the cheapest way to medicate fear and worry about money.

Macaroni and cheese, spaghetti and meatballs, cereals and popcorn are inexpensive to purchase. However, it is not always the type of food that creates problems, it is the quantity! Do you have a food that you often crave because it reminds you of what mom or grandma gave you when you were sick as a kid? Are you comforting yourself with that when you feel scared about whether you will have enough money to pay your bills? Does eating it do anything other than give you a temporary respite?

In order to end the stress-overeating cycle, you first have to make some new decisions about how to not abuse food. Let’s start with some helpful hints to regulate your food intake without feeling deprived. When you go on a diet and take away all your favorite foods you are creating even more stress, and that leads to more cravings! Therefore, I am not advising you to forgo all comfort food and eat only foods you consider to be “diet” food. I want to teach you how to get more out of eating less.

Junk food is a common medication for stress. It reminds me of the intravenous solution that people receive in the hospital. The liquid drips and drips the nutrients or meds directly into the body. That is what happens when you eat foods like chips, pretzels, popcorn, M&Ms, nuts, and other foods that you tend to eat by the handful. You are unaware of what you are eating and swallow mouthful after mouthful, in a mindless way. Oh, the calories!

Instead, purchase individual packets of these foods and others that tempt you. Manufacturers are now offering 100-calorie packs of cookies and crackers. Chips have always been available in small lunchbox portions. When it comes to foods like spaghetti and macaroni or fries, look at the package label that tells you what a portion size is and actually use a measuring cup at first to see how much that is. If you are making foods ahead of time, you can put portions in baggies or small containers and freeze them. Then, just take one out and defrost when you want it.

At first you might balk at the idea of having what seems like a small size. This is especially true if you compare how much popcorn you eat at the movies with the 100-calorie version you can buy in the supermarket. What is the secret to eating one average portion and being able to feel satisfied? It is simply to take a small bite and keep it in your mouth. Taste it! Did you know that your taste buds are on your tongue and not in your stomach?

Gulping down your food while you are talking to someone else on the phone or watching TV is just putting wasted calories inside you. Take one piece of popcorn, one M&M or one teaspoon of ice cream and let it melt in your mouth. Take one forkful of macaroni and cheese, one chip or one nut and chew it slowly as you focus on the taste. You may be surprised at how pleasurable this experience is.

Another way to achieve taste satisfaction without calorie overload is to ask yourself what kind of food experience will lead you to feeling satisfied. Do you want to eat something sweet, sour, salty or spicy? Once you have made that decision, think about the quality of the food. Many people like their treats in liquid form and go for milk shakes, sweet juices or large lattes filled with chocolate, cream and calories. Others like the softness of ice cream, pasta or cake. Chips, nuts, pretzels, cookies and chewy candy please those with a yen for crunching. Make a choice that feels exactly right and you will feel fulfilled. But remember to choose one portion and make the most of enjoying the taste and texture to the full.

When you worry about your financial problems plus the added pounds you have gained, you will feel worse than ever. Start to eat consciously. Choose foods you like in smaller portions and face your fears instead or running away to the refrigerator.

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The Trouble With Diets

by Gloria on January 4, 2009

Staying on a diet feels like a punishment. Those who lose and gain over and over again may feel like the legendary Sisyphus who was sentenced to roll a huge rock up a hill only to have it roll right down again, and he had to begin again, and again, and again.

The esteemed columnist Art Buchwald once said that the trouble with the word diet is that it comes from the verb to die! I think that the trouble with diets comes from another “D” word, deprivation. Most dieters secretly tell themselves that a diet is temporary deprivation in order that they may eat all they want again.

If you have been a lifelong dieter, it is time to consider giving up dieting completely. Unless you are a diabetic or highly allergic to many foods, there are no “bad” foods except those you label as “bad.” If you can’t eat just one portion and stop, you brand a food “bad.”  If you tell yourself that a food is fattening, you may regard it as “bad.

You can learn to eat just one and stop when you stop feeling deprived. Carol, one of my clients, was a compulsive eater married to another overeater. She decided to join OA, but her husband Jeff wasn’t ready to address his compulsion.

One night they decided to go to a movie, however Jeff didn’t want to pay the high prices for candy in the theater and stopped at a market to load up on his treats. He bought five candy bars. While they were waiting for the movie to start, he ate four of them and asked her to put the last one into her purse while he went to the rest room.

Carol had just started her abstinence from sugar and was feeling proud of herself for not buying candy. But Jeff’s candy bar started calling to her. “Just eat me and you can be good again tomorrow,” it said. “I’ll just eat this one and then I’ll never eat another one again,” she thought. She was very tempted to give in to the enticing goody, and then she had an amazing new idea.

“This is not the last candy bar in the world,” she reasoned. “If I pass this one up, I can go to the market any time I want and buy another one.  There are boxes and cartons of this kind of candy waiting to be put on the shelves. I don’t need to have it NOW. ”

Carol almost let her Needy Greedy Child self take over. This hidden personality is like a three year old. It wants what it wants when it wants it, and doesn’t think of the consequences. Usually, the Needy Greedy Child acts up when the overeater is upset and her needs aren’t being met in another area of her life. Carol came from a family of overeaters who taught her that food makes upset feelings go away.

When she gave up medicating herself with sugar, she had to face her negative emotions and learn how to deal with her problems instead of eating over them or suppressing them with food. Sugar was not her enemy. She was her own enemy.

Sheila had been seventy pounds overweight all her life until at age fifty a kind doctor persuaded her that he could help her. On the day she reached her goal, he told her that she had done a wonderful job, and the only way she could keep the weight off was to never eat sugar or bread again. When she heard that, Sheila went into shock. All she could think of was how much she loved bread, crusty, crispy, home made breads.

She went wild at the thought that never was forever and came to see me when she had gained thirty pounds back and was still unable to control her binges. The way that Sheila learned to take control over her food and her life was to count calories and eat whatever she wanted as long as she stayed within her chosen amount. That meant that she could have some bread every day. She was able to learn to eat normally since she knew that bread would be there again tomorrow and she didn’t have to gorge on it today.

Diets set people up to fail by holding out the promise of losing weight, but dieting is like holding your breath. Sooner or later you have to let go. Eventually dieters want to eat the foods they have deprived themselves of. Food has no power. It can’t jump into your mouth. You put it there and now you can choose to take the power back.

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You Can Eat One and Stop

January 3, 2009

An amazing acupressure technique called EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) can take cravings away in minutes. Whether it is cigarettes, beer, donuts or chocolate, just touching or tapping a few energy points on the face and upper body allows the urge to disappear effortlessly. Most people who have used EFT to combat cravings report a loss [...]

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How to Get Through the Holidays Without Gaining Weight

November 30, 2008

The holiday season is upon us. Do you greet it with joy and trepidation at the same time? Festivities bring us together with family and friends. It is time to take out the decorations, go shopping and bake the cookies. Ah, There’s the rub! Cookies, candy, rich foods all add up to weight gain as [...]

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