It’s time again to register for the 2012 FREE Tapping World Summit from May 7-16. You will get to listen to 2 presentations each day for 10 days Each day’s presentations will run for 24-hours so you can listen at your convenience. That means that you can experience 20 of the most interesting and outstanding people in this field.

I just took a peek at the list of presenters and I was impressed by the high quality. I have been practicing and teaching EFT for over 15 years, and I know most of these people personally. I have seen them in action at conferences, listened to their webinars, read their books, and taken their trainings.

You are in for a treat when you listen to researcher Dr. David Feinstein explain the science behind EFT, Donna Eden, an incredible teacher will share how you can benefit from Energy Medicine. Carol Look, whose EFT book about attracting abundance is a best seller will excite you, and Stacey Vornbrock whose unique EFT protocol will help you release problems from every cell in your body.

I hope that you can tell how excited I am! Last year there were over 300,000 people who registered. Click here to find out how you can attend too. All of this is absolutely FREE! Please pass this information on to your friends.

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See you at the summit!

Last week I had the great opportunity to participate in Sharon Cass-Toole & Meyer Toole’s Healing and Transformation teleseminar series. Since then they’ve had numerous requests to extend the replay deadline to provide more people with an opportunity to listen.

Today I’m excited to announce that, due to popular demand, the replay deadline has been extended until midnight on Sunday.

To listen to the free replay now click on this link:

http://www.energypsychologycafe.com/healing/Arenson/invite

This is what Meyer and Sharon had to say about our interview:

Our guest today was Gloria Arenson, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Psychologist, and expert in the field of EFT. She is passionate about helping people help themselves to free themselves of negative emotions and compulsive behaviors such as overeating, internet addiction, procrastination and over-spending.

Gloria works in many other areas as well. She took us through an actual EFT exercise and we can feel the difference EFT can make. It was fascinating to hear her describe the success a compulsive shopper had with EFT.

Listen to Gloria and learn her 5-step process as described in her bestselling book, “Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing”.

You don’t want to miss this replay!

Remember, this replay will expire at midnight on Sunday. To listen to the replay now click on this link:

http://www.energypsychologycafe.com/healing/Arenson/invite

While you’re there be sure to check out my special offer which I put together exclusively for Meyer and Sharon’s interview. Click on this link now and look for the big orange “Special Offer” button:

http://www.energypsychologycafe.com/healing/Arenson/invite

We have just celebrated the anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic 100 years ago. All the ballyhoo reminds me of a saying that is common in the Twelve Step groups where members talk about “Changing deck chairs on the Titanic.” What that means is that an “addict” goes from one type of substance or behavior to another.

The very first client I ever treated after I became a licensed Marriage Family Therapist was an alcoholic, overeating, drug user. Her attempt to become “sober” was like a juggler with 3 balls in the air. When she had gotten her food under control and stopped drinking she married a drug dealer and dropped out of sight for a couple of years. After her divorce she returned to therapy to work on her food cravings and was no longer drinking or using drugs. However, she got a job as a waitress and found that her fellow workers went out for drinks after work every night so she soon succumbed to alcohol again! You can see how cravings for a variety of substances and behaviors can lead to a life of misery and self hatred when someone can’t get off the merry-go-round of compulsion. The story has a happy ending although it took her many years to achieve sobriety… that was before the creation of Energy Psychology.

When I was working with compulsive overeaters and bulimics I discovered that a great number of bulimic clients also battled alcohol. We were so busy focusing on their problems with food and alcohol that they often “forgot” to mention that they were shopaholics also since they didn’t think of this compulsion as a “real” problem. As a result of working with compulsive spenders I wrote Born To Spend.

As a result of 30 years spent helping people who have compulsions or addictions but keep “changing deck chairs,” I am offering a workshop at Santa Barbara City College Continuing Education called WHEN TOO MUCH IS NOT ENOUGH: HOW TO UNDERSTAND AND CONTROL CRAVINGS. I will help you understand where these problems come from, and what to do about them. Learn to understand others in your life who have these problems.

Come to Schott Center Room 30 on Sat. May 12 at 9 AM-4 PM. Tuition is $23. Sign up online at www.sbcc.edu/ce

6 CE credits for MFTs, LCSWs, RNs, LVNs, CNAs

I hope to see you there. Please pass the word along.

Gloria Arenson

If you are anywhere near the Santa Barbara area and want to have a hands-on experience with Grownup Love please come to my all day workshop on Sat. April 14th at the Santa Barbara Continuing Education Schott Center. We will be meeting from 9AM to 4 PM for an experience that might change your life. You will enjoy a full day for only $23!

This workshop is for people who want to attract the “having it all” relationship as well as those who are already in a relationship and want to make it better. Do you complain that you keep attracting the same kind of disappointing lover over and over? You will discover why. Are you in an unhappy relationship and can’t seem to leave? You will gain tools to deal with your predicament.

I will share the latest findings from neuroscience about how your brain works when you fall in love or out of love. You will learn to use EFT and the Phoenix Effect Process to transform your negative emotions and beliefs about yourself as a lovable person who deserves to be loved and cherished. Remember that you are never too old to find and keep grownup love!

Professionals in the psychology and health fields can earn Continuing Education credit. Go to
www.sbcc.edu/ce for more information or to enroll.

March 4-10 is Read An Ebook Week. Join the fun and read one this week. Some libraries are now offering Ebooks to lenders so you can get them free. I am happy that all my books are also in Ebook form and you don’t have to pay for shipping when you choose one.

Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It, is now found at Kindle as are Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing and EFT for Procrastination. I hope that Born to Spend and Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards will soon follow. Barnes and Noble, Sony and Kobo Vox also carry Ebooks.

I am thrilled to be part of this reading revolution and look forward to creating more books in the future.

Dr.Steve Manire,DC,CEPH from Little Rock Arkansas sent me this glowing review of Grownup Love:Getting It and Keeping It. I am thrilled that he is sharing my work with others.

It has been said that it is never too late to have a happy childhood. Now, Gloria Arenson shows us that it is never too late to find Grown Up Love and Keep It! Her latest book, Grown Up Love: Getting It and Keeping It, “takes you on a journey of self-exploration and self-transformation.” While most of us have sought to transform others in our relationships, she artfully clarifies that we can only transform ourselves.

Perhaps most importantly, she gives us tools to facilitate our transformation: EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and PEP (the Phoenix Effect Process). Both of these tools can allow one to rapidly and effectively clear the internal programs/beliefs/traumas/etc, that trap us in old repeating patterns of ineffectiveness that keep us from having “grown up” love.

She speaks as a professional – she is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over 30 years
experience – and as one who has made the journey of transformation and has valuable experience to
draw from. She is also well versed in EFT/energy psychology, and is a former president of The
Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology. Yet, her book will benefit therapists and
laypersons, alike.

The book’s chapters address various aspects of love and relationships: How we learned about love
(from family, society, movies, etc.); The ways we’ve taken this learning into our relationships (often with disastrous results); Preparing oneself for better relationships (we can learn to make better choices); Dealing with emotional problems in ourselves and others; and, even getting free of harmful relationships.

Especially appreciated are the questions posed in numerous chapters. As an experienced therapist, she doesn’t give answers, but asks questions that guide us to find our own answers, and she is good at asking the right questions. Then, at the end of most chapters she gives a “Take Action” list of statements through which one may explore their own chapter-related issues with EFT and/or PEP.

My energy psychology study group and I really liked the notion of using these tools to “explore” our inner issues – seems less threatening, a more peaceful approach. It is vital to the process to take appropriate action to clear the internal blocks that we find. Only then may external actions be effectively considered and taken.

As a chiropractor for 30 years and an EFT/EP practitioner since 2004, I can vouch for two things:
1) EFT is a highly effective tool for the transformational process, and 2) as Gloria states, some people (clients, friends, relatives) may be “green fruit,” i.e., not ripe/ready for change, and one must take that into account and accept it…and live grown up love, anyway!

Gloria Arenson has written a short, very beneficial book for anyone living in relationship with anyone else and desiring to be more effective (i.e., happy!) in their relationships. My only criticism about the book is, since I use a yellow highlighter to mark significant passages when I read, she could have saved me time and ink by simply printing her book on yellow paper!

Feb 14th is approaching and thoughts of love are in the air. My latest Ebook, Grownup Love:Getting It and Keeping It, makes a great Valentine’s Day gift for yourself or a loved one. I had to write this book for a number of reasons. The first reason is because I am a veteran Licensed Marriage Family Therapist with over thirty years of experience. I have successfully counseled numerous couples whose relationship was in trouble as well as clients who were trying to figure out why they had no love relationships or were in an unhappy relationship and couldn’t or wouldn’t let it go. Still others were distressed by the realization that they kept choosing the same kind of unsuitable partner over and over again.

The second reason I wrote this book is that not only have I coached people about finding the right relationship, I have also lived most of the same experiences as my clients and know what it feels like from the inside out. I have been widowed, divorced, been attracted to the same type of dysfunctional partners more than once, and have also been in a harmonious marriage for over thirty years. Therefore, I know what it is like to be miserable in love and what it takes to find true and lasting love.

A long time ago I attended a talk given by a relationship specialist who said something that I have never forgotten. He said that the goal for people who want a successful relationship is to achieve Grownup Love. He said: The “having it all” relationship is a relationship between two grownups who have done their own work, and in whom the head, the heart and the genitals are lined up!

What does that mean? What kind of “work” do you have to do in order to attract your perfect love and live happily ever after? This Ebook will take you on a journey of self-exploration and self-transformation. I will direct you in taking an inventory of your life, exploring what lessons you can learn from all your romantic relationships both positive and negative, your beliefs about love and about yourself as a lovable person, and awareness of common patterns that you repeat although they may be painful.

I will teach you to use EFT and the Phoenix Effect Process to heal the past and eliminate negative beliefs that block you from attracting the right mate for you. If you are already in a relationship you will be able to change your negative reactions to your partner as you see yourself in a new and more positive way.

The book is filled with stories of people just like you who used these methods to create love and happiness.I hope that these stories will give you courage to achieve your love goals and enjoy the “having it all” love relationship.

A rendetlen íróasztal, garázs és kartotékos szekrény nem csupán annyi, amennyit a felszín mutat. A betegesen halogató ember sokszor megszállottan arra koncentrál, hogy a fizikai környezetét rendberakja, de valójában nem a rendetlen fiók az igazi probléma; az csak egy sokkal mélyebb ügy felszíni megnyilvánulása. A hosszú évek során, amióta ezzel a témakörrel foglalkozom, hányszor derült ki a hol szomorú, hol ijesztő valódi ok, ami a halogatás mögött meghúzódott!

Dorisnak annyira elege volt már az állandóan rendetlen íroasztalából, hogy végül is hozzám fordult segítségért. Akárhányszor határozta el, és tett komoly ígéretet magának, hogy most végre felszámolja a szörnyű rendetlenséget, valami mindig közbejött. Mindig fontosabb, sürgősebb tennivalók tolakodtak előtérbe. Doris szájából csak úgy dőltek a panasz szavak:

- “Pedig nem is olyan nagy az íróasztalom. Ha nekiállnék, néhány óra elég lenne ahhoz, hogy tökéletes rendet teremtsek. Miért nem vagyok akkor képes rá?”

Hogy feltárjuk a valódi blokkokat, Doris-szal a “Mitől félsz, mi történne, ha…? “ játékot játszottam. Megkérdeztem tőle:

- “Mitől félsz, mi történne, ha tökéletes rendet teremtenél az íróasztalodon?”
-“Jobban érezném magam.” – válaszolta.
Első lépésként általában ez az, amit a halogatók mondanak. Így tovább folytattam a kérdezősködést.
-“És aztán? Mitől félsz, mi történne azután?”
-“Aztán nekiállhatok a könyvespolcnak, és azt is rendberakhatom”.
- “És aztán? Mitől félsz, mi fog történni aztán?”
Újra és újra feltettem ezt a kérdést, és ezzel arra kényszerítettem Doris-t, hogy egyre mélyebbre ásson le, míg végül előbukkant a valódi ok:
-“Ha rendbehozom az íróasztalomat, akkor rendbe kell raknom az életemet is – és ez azt jelentené, hogy el kell válnom a férjemtől!”– kiáltott fel.

De hogy jön ez ide? Mi köze a rendetlen íróasztalnak a váláshoz? A jelenség mögött meghúzódó gondolatmenetet én úgy hívom, hogy a “kéz kezet mos politikája”. Ugyanis a politikai életben látjuk azt gyakran, hogy a politikusok “kéz kezet mos” alapon egymást szavazataikkal, befolyásukkal támogatják oly módon, hogy ez valamennyiüknek hasznot hajt. Például, ha az egyik tagállam szenátorának egy – mondjuk a közlekedést szabályozó új – törvénytervezetéhez több szavazatra van szüksége, akkor kapcsolatba lép egy másik tagállam szenátorával, aki esetleg egy új mezőgazdasági törvényt szeretne megszavaztatni. A két tervezetet egy törvényjavaslattá gyúrják össze, és a kettőt együtt szavaztatják meg, bár a két területnek semmi köze sincs egymáshoz – de így már elegendő szavazatot össze tudnak hozni – tehát “kéz kezet mos”.

Amikor a halogató tudatalatti szinten két teljesen eltérő problémát asszociál egymással, teljesen lebénul, és egyiket sem tudja megoldani.

Jessica állandóan amiatt panaszkodott, hogy képtelen rátalálni ideális társára, és emiatt teljesen elkeseredett, depresszióssá vált. Öt évvel korábban elvált, a volt férje azóta új párra talált, már meg is nűsült azóta, Jessica pedig még addig sem jutott el, hogy kihajítsa a volt férj ruháit a szekrényből.

Tudatosan az volt minden vágya, hogy megszabaduljon a ruháktól, rendet teremtsen a szekrényben, de valójában – mint a kezelések során kiderült – tudat alatt még mindig visszavárta a férjét, és ezt a lehetőséget szimbolikusan azzal tartotta nyitva, hogy a szekrényben még mindig őrizgette a volt férj ruháit.

Amint felismerte, hogy a szekrénynek semmi köze ahhoz, hogy ő még mindig a tönkrement házasságát gyászolja, képes volt kidobni a régi ruhákat, és rendet teremteni a szekrényben.

Ted az egész házát felújította. A pincétől a padlásig mindenhová új berendezés került. Csak az utolsó simítások hiányoztak még – néhány fogantyú a konyhabútorra – de erre az utolsó lépésre sehogysem tudta rászánni magát. Amikor megdolgoztam az “És mitől félsz, mi lesz, ha..?” kérdésekkel, lépésről lépésre tárult fel az igazi ok.

-“Ha teljesen befejezem a házat, akkor többé nincs kifogásom, és meg kell hívnom néhány ismerőst a házba. Akkor újra társasági életet kell élnem..”
- “És aztán? Mitől félsz, mi fog történni?” – folytattam tovább a faggatást.
- “Akkor újra meg kell nősülnöm!”
Elképesztő, mennyire irracionális ez a fajta gondolkozás – időnként mégis szinte valamennyien beleesünk ebbe a fajta csapdába.

Egy jó módja annak, hogy kimásszunk az effajta gödörből az, ha az “És mitől félsz, mi lesz, ha..?”..játékot játszod. Ezt megteheted akár egyedül, akár egy jó barát segítségével.

Vonulj el egy nyugodt sarokba, ahol senki sem zavar. Kérdezd meg magadtól:
“Mitől félek, mi fog történni, ha befejezem ezt a projektet, ha elérem a célomat?”

Írd le, vagy hangosan mond ki mindazt, ami felmerül benned. Ne ítélkezz, ne kritizálj most. Tedd fel a kérdést újra és újra, és mindig használd a “félelem” szót – hiszen mindez erről szól!

Maradj a folyamattal, ne hagyd abba a kérdésfeltevést egészen addig, míg el nem fogynak a könnyű, kézenfekvő válaszok: az olyan felszínes válaszok, mint “akkor boldog leszek”, vagy “akkor egészséges leszek”.

Előbb-utóbb kibújik a szög a zsákból, és feljön az igazi ok. És ennek (lehet, hogy) semmi köze sincs a projekthez, amit képtelen vagy befejezni. Épp ez a bibi a dologban.

Az íróasztalnak – általában – nem sok köze van a házassághoz, és a konyhának – többnyire – semmi köze ahhoz, hogy képes vagyok-e újra elkötelezni magam. És mégis rengeteg köze van hozzá! ”Kéz kezet mos”.

Continuing Education Units for MFTs and LCSWs in California

Learning EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) changed my life personally and professionally as a Marriage and Family Therapist. As a result, I have used it with thousands of people in counseling and classes. I have also written a number of books that teach you how to learn EFT and how to apply it to treat specific negative and self-defeating behaviors.

As a Continuing Education Provider I am now able to bring this information to you in the form of books, eBooks, audio books, audio classes, Mp3s, CDs and DVDs. You will now be able to read, listen to or view the information at your own pace and earn CE Units as you do.
You can choose from the following:

EFT FROM A TO Z is a 10 hour CD audio class in which you will learn this simple but powerful energy meridian method and become skilled at using it in your practice when treating stress, anxiety, fear, phobias, addictive cravings, traumatic memories, PTSD, self defeating behaviors, negative beliefs and more. In addition you will receive a free one-hour consult with me by phone or Skype.

The award winning FIVE SIMPLE STEPS TO EMOTIONAL HEALING: THE LAST SELF HELP BOOK YOU WILL EVER NEED, is a basic EFT primer that takes you through the steps of learning the meridian tapping technique in a clear and easy way. Specific protocols for treating many common emotional problems are included as well as examples from cases.

DESSERTS IS STRESSED SPELLED BACKWARDS and HOW TO STOP PLAYING THE WEIGHTING GAME deal with overcoming compulsive overeating and bulimia. I have specialized in treating eating disorders for thirty years and provide a unique and different approach to help clients become empowered to change their behavior.

BORN TO SPEND provides a powerful EFT approach for controlling compulsive spending and debting. Shopaholics and overspenders often lives of quiet desperation. This compulsive habit has led many to embezzle, steal and go bankrupt. This book offers insight into this devastating behavior and can benefit both the spender and the family or friends who are also affected.

The information in EFT FOR PROCRASTINATION makes clear that putting things off is not just a bad habit but also a way of avoiding fear that can result in misery and failure. This EFT program gets to the heart of the problem once and for all.

GROWNUP LOVE: GETTING IT AND KEEPING IT is a workbook for people who want to attract a healthy relationship or improve the one they are in. It also includes ways to use The Phoenix Effect Process to resolve the long term issues that erode loving feelings.

CHOOSE FROM THIS LIBRARY OF OPTIONS

BOOKS
Born To Spend (book) 5 CE Units
Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards (book) 6 CE Units
EFT For Procrastination (book) 5 CE Units
Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing (book) 7 CE Units

EBOOKS
Born to Spend (eBook) 5 CE Units
Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards (eBook) 6 CE Units
How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game (eBook) 2 CE Units
Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It (eBook) 2 CE Units

CD AND Mp3 VERSIONS
Born To Spend (CD) 7 CE Units
EFT From A to Z (CDs) 10 CE Units
How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game (CD) 4 CE Units
The Phoenix Effect Process CD or Mp3 4 CE Units

Although we are still in the midst of the holiday season, perhaps you are already thinking ahead to your New Year’s Resolutions. Do you want to lose weight, stop procrastinating, say no to post holiday sales that max out your credit cards, or give up any other bad habit?

If you get a Kindle or Nook for Christmas or Hanukkah you can try it out by purchasing one of my how-to books that are now available on digital readers. My latest, Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It, is now on Kindle as is Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing. If you have a Nook, you can also find How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game, Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards, EFT for Procrastination, and Born to Spend (although you might want to read this before you do any more shopping).

I just received a copy of the beautiful book, Open to Hope: Inspirational Stories for Handling the Holidays After Loss. Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley have compiled essays from many people who write about how they have dealt with losing loved ones. I am proud to have my story included. You may know someone who would love to have this as a gift.

My goal for 2012 is to continue to learn and to teach about Energy Psychology. I will have that opportunity on January 21, 2012 when I offer a full day’s training in the Phoenix Effect Process in Santa Barbara for the Santa Barbara City College Adult Education program. This is open to everyone. In April 2012 I will teach another one day class based on Grownup Love at the same locale.

Plan ahead and meet me at the June ACEP Energy Psychology conference in gorgeous San Diego CA.
Meanwhile, I wish you a happy and healthy Holiday and New Year.