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Getting My Word Out

by gloria on December 2, 2011

These past few weeks I have been invited to get my word out through various media opportunities. Most of you were busy preparing for Thanksgiving so you most likely missed my appearance on Christopher McAuliffe’s radio show, The Coaching Show. I had a great time sharing about “How to Listen Wisely.” I shared how coaches, therapists or lay people can listen for common errors of thought that lead us to negative states. If you are an All or Nothing person, you limit your life since everything is either black or white or right or wrong. Mind Reading, where you are sure that you know what your spouse, boss, or friend is thinking, and you react without checking it out are just two mindsets that will lead to trouble in life or love.

It’s not too late to listen to the rest. Search iTunes Store for “The Coaching Show” at wsradio. Or go to www.wsradio.com/internet-talk-radio.cfm/shows/The-Coachinng-Show.html

Next week I am guesting on Dr. Henry Grayson’s radio show Mindful Living on the Progressive Radio Network. I look forward to sharing about my latest Ebook, Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It.

I am delighted by the wonderful response I am getting to this book.

Herbert L. Gravitz, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist said:
From the opening paragraph in Gloria Arenson’s new book Grownup Love: Getting It and Keeping It, to the last, Gloria Arenson weaves a story about love, how to get it, how to avoid the natural traps we fall into, and host of other important questions and topics that individuals and couples face. Most importantly, Ms. Arenson gives her readers tools to deal with all of the above and so many more issues. The ways, ranging from “the tapping cure,” EFT, and the Phoenix Effect Process, among others, are what she has been learning and teaching for decades.

In her delightful, yet wise way, she invites her readers to come with her and celebrate not just love, but life itself. This book is not a passive read but a book of action, leading readers to lives they want. Through thought-provoking exercises the reader is urged to do, she invites her readers to unravel their questions, like what is love or how to deal with a broken heart, and guides her readers “to clear the wreckage” of their lives. The book is also useful for those who are doing well, but want to do better in their relationships.

Engaging and very interactive with her reader, Gloria Arenson’s latest book, Grown Up Love, goes along with her tradition of showing her readers not just what but how to accomplish their goals.
Her book is a treat to read.

Wendy Anne McCarty, PhD, RN, DCEP and Author of Welcoming Consciousness wrote:
Grownup Love is an effective guide to help you examine your relationship patterns and transform them. Each chapter focuses on a specific topic to explore and teaches you how to use two powerful energy techniques to rapidly resolve, release, and heal unhealthy or constrictive patterns that you discover. You can use Grownup Love as your own self-guided relationship-healing workbook; or, use it in your healing work with your therapist or life coach. I think Grownup Love is terrific–straightforward, great stories, and clear directions to help you move into positive action and live the relationship.

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Let the Buyer Beware

by gloria on October 27, 2011

Let the buyer beware is a saying that is as old as time. It originated in ancient Rome but is as relevant today as it was a few thousand years ago. In society nowadays we are bombarded by commercials and come-ons to buy goods and services through the media and digitally on our computers. How does this apply to EFT as more and more people practice it?

A few days ago I received a call from someone who has been suffering with a severe eating disorder for many years. She told me that in the past she had even tried many kinds of treatments and was now looking into meridian tapping. She has had sessions with a few practitioners who are quite well known in the tapping therapy world but was on the verge of giving up since nothing had worked. When I heard their names I realized that it wasn’t their skill in tapping that was at fault, it was their lack of expertise about eating disorders. If you have a sprained wrist or digestive problem you will most likely go to a doctor who is a General Practitioner. But if you have diabetes or cancer you will seek a specialist.

I have been in practice as a licensed psychotherapist for 30 years specializing in treating compulsive disorders, especially overeating and bulimia. I am knowledgeable in ways that the general EFT practitioner is not, relating to the biology of cravings and how these clients think, how they feel and how they behave. My book, Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards, is based on my work with hundreds of clients. In it I offer a complete plan to help sufferers of compulsive overeating and bulimia use EFT to help themselves.

EFT is spreading all over the world. That is fantastic. However, there are also many diverse groups offering certification in EFT that almost anyone can get whether they are licensed health or mental health professionals or not. I am writing this because of my concern that although some of these people who are advertising themselves as Practitioners in your city are experienced healers others may be just EFT enthusiasts who have taken a few trainings.

If you are a professional I am assuming that you will not use EFT to treat those whose problems are beyond your scope of practice. If you are learning EFT in order to become an EFT Practitioner or Coach, and intend to charge people for your services, please make sure that you know your own limits. Do no harm. If in doubt, refer potential clients to someone with experience who is more skillful. Don’t tell people that you can help them because our motto is Try It On Everything.

If you are a potential client who is interested in finding an EFT practitioner to aid you in resolving a problem make sure to ask what kind of background the practitioner has, the level of his or her training, and the amount of knowledge and experience they have in treating your particular problem.

Please remember that it is your responsibility to get the best for yourself. As the Romans would remind you: Caveat Emptor; Let the buyer beware!

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EFT: Tap Along Or Trust Yourself

April 25, 2011

I have noticed that many EFT practitioners are offering what I call Tap-alongs in which the teacher or therapist provides common negative beliefs or thoughts that go with the problem at hand. When you first learned to ride a two-wheeler you may have had training wheels on your bike to keep you from falling down [...]

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EFT: Leave the Dark Ages of Talk Therapy Behind

February 19, 2011

I have had three new clients in my psychotherapy practice in the last few months who revealed they had been in conventional talk therapy of some kind for 3 to 10 years. I’ll call them Sam, Joan and Andrea. Apparently their problems had not been resolved satisfactorily or they wouldn’t have sought me out. Their [...]

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Stomp Your Problems Away With EFT

January 19, 2011

When I was in college I dated a guy who shared an apartment in an old rundown building with three other students. They were typical college boys who were busy doing everything but keeping the place clean. One of the biggest problems for many city dwellers that live in these kinds of places is combating [...]

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How to Get Through the Holidays Without Stress

December 15, 2010

The holiday season is upon us. Do you greet it with trepidation? Festivities bring us together with family. Are you dreading that experience because you have to act as if everything is peachy when it isn’t because you are really having an awful time and can’t wait to find an excuse to leave? In psychology [...]

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A Wake Up Call

November 1, 2010

As you read this, another election will have come and gone. It has been a time of high emotion and nasty behavior. Most of the political arguments I listened to rarely provided any facts to back up the rhetoric. They just served to inflame us. I recently read a wonderful blog by Dr. Mary Klein, [...]

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The Dear Abby Approach to Problem Solving

July 19, 2009

Are you the kind of person that others call when they need advice? Do you pride yourself on your compassion and smarts when it comes to aiding others but can’t seem to use your loving wisdom when it comes to your problems? Here is a simple game that will enable you to be your own [...]

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