I am going to teach a FREE one day workshop Saturday Jan. 29 at the Schott Center in Santa Barbara and have been thinking about the numerous times I have shared my ideas about this frustrating behavior in the last 25 years. I never run out of attendees! Procrastinators come in all ages, economic groups, races, nationalities, and both sexes.
Procrastination, putting off starting or not finishing, is the way many people avoid fear and anxiety. In my book, EFT For Procrastination I describe 5 fears in detail. Procrastinators usually realize that the most common fear is fear of failure. However, there is another fear that is totally irrational and yet pervasive. I call it the Earmarking fear.
We all know that it is common in our government for legislators to tack pieces onto a law that have nothing to do with that law. Some bills have hundreds of Earmarks attached. When the bill passes so do those other bits. For instance, a bill for increasing health services may include money to build a bridge in Nevada or fund loans for special needs students. It all gets lumped together and can’t be taken apart.
Many years ago a student in one of my workshops discovered that she had been Earmarking. She was putting off cleaning out her desk and felt angry with herself. Desks, closets and storage areas are common projects that people say they want to do but don’t follow through with.
Halfway through the day she had a sudden realization of the meaning of her behavior and said, “If I clean up my desk I will have to clean up my life, and I will have to divorce my husband!” This is a prime example of an Earmark fear since a desk has nothing to do with a marriage but her unconscious mind had lumped them together.
The desk was a metaphor for her life. She was putting off taking a hard look at her life because she was afraid of facing her feelings about her marriage. When you discover how these Earmark fears can make your life miserable and free yourself from these irrational beliefs you will be able to stop putting up with putting off.