I was reading the paper this morning and noticed a restaurant review that mentioned that the best thing about this new place was the molten chocolate dessert. I began to think about the amazing gourmet restaurant my husband and I treat ourselves to for birthdays, anniversaries and sometimes just for fun. They serve a chocolate cake that is “died and gone to heaven” marvelous.
Then it dawned on me that I had not chosen that dessert in a very long time. I have been choosing other less rich and non-chocolaty goodies and never feel cheated, even when my husband orders it! I don’t have to make up for not eating chocolate by eating chocolate the next day, or play any of the food games that compulsive eaters play to stay away from the power of chocolate.
As I pondered this my mind wandered back to the year 1999. At that time in my life I was still battling a lifelong craving for chocolate. I will never forget the week that battle came to an end. It happened when I returned from a visit with my naturopath during which she ordered me to refrain from having any caffeine in my diet. That meant no coffee and no chocolate. I vowed to obey.
My determination was shaken when I came home and opened my mailbox to a surprise. It was a gift of a one-pound box of Godiva chocolates. I wanted to scream at this unfair trick the Universe was playing with me. I put the candy on my kitchen island and paced around the kitchen trying to figure out what to do with this expensive and delicious treat. I certainly was NOT going to throw it away.
Then I heard myself think: If this were one of my clients, what would I tell her to do? I realized that I had to follow my own advice and use EFT to resolve this dilemma. I started to tap and got in touch with my conflict about eating the chocolate, saving the chocolate, throwing it out, or something else. It was such rich and fabulous candy that I really wanted a taste but knew what that could lead to.
I tapped for about five minutes and felt calmer. I still hadn’t solved my Godiva problem, however I did not want to eat any candy. A few hours later I had to tap again. I think that I tapped about four times that day to keep the craving away. But I didn’t put the box away! The next day I tapped again. I tapped a few times during the next couple of days until I was no longer interested in the candy.
Finally, after all that tapping, I decided that I would put the box in my freezer to get it out of my sight and save it. My non-compulsive husband was entitled to eat it whenever he wished. In addition I could use pieces in my classes to demonstrate how to use EFT to end chocolate cravings. The box lasted over two years in my garage freezer!
That happened more than ten years ago and, although I have eaten chocolate since then, I no longer have to fight the urge to splurge or feel guilty if I eat a portion. In fact, as I came out of my reverie I realized that I no longer choose chocolate ice cream either as my gotta have it flavor when I have ice cream.
That’s the great thing about using EFT. Cravings disappear and you don’t have to keep fighting to be “good.” Fears of food dissolve. It is just food, something that sometimes you eat and sometimes you don’t and it is no big deal. Try tapping and see what happens for your cravings, whatever they are.
You can find other help to control overeating in my workbook, How to Stop Playing the Weighting Game or read Desserts Is Stressed Spelled Backwards.