The New Year is here, and most of us have formulated a few New Year’s Resolutions. Have you ever noticed that we tend to pledge the same ones over and over again since we didn’t fulfill our expectations from the year gone by? One way to eliminate the guilt or shame of falling short is to take a whole new approach to resolution making.
My lifelong motto is “The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates suggested this a few thousand years ago, but it is still worth thinking about. I like to keep this idea in mind when I counsel. At the beginning of a therapy session I usually make sure the client is seated comfortably and then ask, “What have you discovered or learned about yourself or your life since we last met?”
I ask this because many of us think that when a therapy session ends we should just go on our way and do what we have been doing without being self-aware of our actions or reactions. Since I teach all my clients how to use EFT or other self-help methods I am hoping that they will practice them as needed when faced by any anger, disappointment, cravings, resentment, pain, etc. that may arise before our next meeting. The more they practice, the better they get at managing difficult emotions, making wise decisions, and engaging in successful relationships.
I wonder what would happen if, before you make your New Year’s Resolutions for 2015, you take stock of 2014 and ask what you learned from that year gone by. How did you handle the ups and downs, the successes and disappointments, the plusses and minuses that came your way? It is not too late to ask yourself what happened in 2013 and list what you learned from your past year. Then you can revise your Resolution list to reflect what you choose to do to assure yourself of a more successful year to come.
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